Hm, despite Andy’s involvement in Upcoming, I never really even bothered to look into it. Looks like I should. I do know that I really want a private, distributed calendaring solution that accepts input from my family, not my “team,” and which publishes in multiple formats. Something like iCal if it weren’t feature-dead, with event-level and groups-based privacy settings. I want my mom and my wife to know what my chores are and I want to know what city my dad will be in on a given day. I also want to see my mom’s upcoming friends-and-relations birthdays. I would even appreciate knowing my parents’ evening engagement schedule, for that matter.